5 signs you are in a troubled marriage

The imperfection in relationships is what makes them strong. But some can go long way, leave an irreplaceable mark

Criticizing your partner in every way 

Somewhat criticism is normal in any marriage. But if no space gets left for compliments and love, you need to get aware of the fact that your relationship is going the down road. A research found out for every one negative comment, 5 positive compliments are needed for the marriage to stay healthy and intact.

You Have the Same Argument

Arguments are actually good for a marriage. Once resolved, leads to a healthier and friendlier environment of mutual understanding as they allow the partners to keep each other points and clear any confusion buried deep within.

But if a past argument keeps on playing on repeat over an extended period of time, there’s a possibility that it keeps on gradually breaking your bond repeatedly along with the arguments every single time. This can be very destructive and the couple may even start to ignore each other.

You think that agreeing is better than disapproving

The above words may seem the opposite of problem, but in reality it is lethal as it’s a consequence of wanting to ignore each other in order to not spark any conflict.

The difference is that you assume a more passive stance because you are either indifferent, fearful of how the conversation will end or you won’t like what you will hear.  Every marriage has disagreements and while fighting is bad, never having disagreements could be a sign that something isn’t right either. Staying quiet and just nodding starts to seem more logical. But as we discussed above, healthy arguments are needed. Neglecting them can be the ruin of your bond.

Both of you stop making mutual decisions

You feel like not explaining anything to your partner. Thus you start to keep your life just to yourself. This leads to long exasperated fights which create further distance between the two.

Get irritated even by each other’s jokes

They don’t remain your first go-to person

Good or bad times, your spouse though you may confide in your family and friends, it’s usually not to the same extent as with your partner. Your partner is, after all, your “person.”

If your partner isn’t the first person you reach out to when you’re down—or to celebrate your successes—it may be a sign that something has gone wrong.

Your spouse can’t think beyond himself/herself. You feel like an outsider being neglected and unwanted. You don’t feel part of the family at all. It is no more our family but ‘my family’. This means danger!

In situations like this, it’s not uncommon for things to fester under the surface until they explode into a massive and unfortunate argument that can be the end of a marriage.