Types of Counseling
Body Image
This question is a perfect example of how healthy bodies really do come in all sizes. We are all unique and totally individual, and our bodies were made to fit each one of us. Perfectly. This means that for some people, their bodies are naturally fatter, this is not a bad thing.
People often get pimples because an increase of hormones in their body stimulate glands under the skin that release an oil called sebum. That is why a lot of people have zits during puberty, why some people get zits when they have their period and some people get them when they are stressed. Bottom line is everyone gets pimples. There are times in life when we may have more pimples and that’s okay!
If we are willing to say that we ‘hate’ our body, we’re probably the type of person who is also very hard on ourselves. Poor body image doesn’t happen out of anywhere. More often than not, it is reflective of the kinds of voices and subconscious messages we had when we were growing up – whether that’s society, family, or friends.
There is no exact path to cultivating body love and everyone’s journey is going to be different! This means that your experience of and in your body is yours alone, and how, if, and when you love your body is going to be different from how other people did things.
Have you ever heard the saying that “comparison is the thief of joy?” It’s true and you shouldn’t compare your body image journey to anyone else’s!
Body image issues can impact people of all genders, ages and at different stages of their life. Any person may feel dissatisfied or uncomfortable in their own skin as a result of individual and environmental factors. Whilst adolescence is a time where people are susceptible to negative body image, it is not something that consumes all young people.
Every person, regardless of their physical attributes or genetics can experience negative body image because it is a feeling state which can be impacted by many things. Often people whose career relies on their appearance can be more ‘at risk’ of negative body image.
People in the public eye and models constantly have their appearance evaluated and commented upon, sometimes in a really un kind way.
The two are connected because how we feel about our bodies is going to have an impact on how we see ourselves as a whole. Because of this, having a negative body image heavily chips away at our self-esteem.
When we have low self-esteem, our quality of life inevitably takes a hit. Low self-esteem turns our energy inwards and makes us want to isolate. It causes us to doubt ourselves. It makes us feel self-conscious and worry about what other people think of us.
Overcoming poor body image can take time, particularly if you have been criticizing yourself for a long time. Because of this, it’s really important to seek the right support so you can start to feel better as soon as possible.
- Call out what you see
- Choose what you look at
- Start loving your body exactly as it is, however hard it feels
- Be yourself
- Celebrate your body as an instrument, not an ornament
- Stop your inner critic in its tracks.
It can feel really awful if we’re being teased for anything, especially our body. It’s important to remember that it’s not your fault! Your body is perfect the way it is. If we have a choice, spend time with people that don’t tease and make fun of us. Surrounding ourselves with people who support us no matter what our body looks like feels good, and can even help boost our self-esteem.
The weight loss and fitness industries use advertising and marketing that make promises suggesting that the solution to a person’s body dissatisfaction and life’s challenges can be ‘fixed’ simply by losing weight. This is incorrect and unfortunately once someone starts engaging in unhealthy practices with food and exercise (dieting, supplementation, or weight loss driving behaviours around eating and activity) it actually can move them to a more negative/unhealthy place in body and mind.
Covid Counselling
Bereavement, isolation, loss of income and fear are triggering mental health conditions or exacerbating existing ones.
Many people may be facing increased levels of alcohol and drug use, insomnia, and anxiety.
Go easy on yourself if you’re experiencing more depression or anxiety than usual. You’re not alone in your struggles. Maintain a routine as best you can. Even if you’re stuck at home, try to stick to your regular sleep, school, meal, or work schedule. This can help you maintain a sense of normalcy.
People with pre-existing mental health conditions should continue with their treatment plans during an emergency and monitor for any new symptoms.
Everyone reacts differently to stressful situations. The emotional impact of an emergency on a person can depend on the person’s characteristics and experiences, the social and economic circumstances of the person and their community and the availability of local resources. People can become more distressed if they see repeated images or hear repeated reports about the COVID-19 outbreak in the media. Reactions during an infectious disease outbreak can include:
- Fear and worry about your own health status and that of your loved ones
- Changes in sleep or eating patterns
- Difficulty sleeping or concentrating
- Worsening of chronic health problems
- Increased use of alcohol, tobacco or other drugs Feelings of fear, anxiety, sadness and uncertainty are normal during a pandemic.
Fortunately, being proactive about your mental health can help to keep both your mind and body stronger.
All you can do is pay attention to those things above that you can control. Worrying will merely aggravate the situation. The infection is likely to spread through the population in unpredictable ways. There is nothing you can do about this. If you follow precautions you are less likely to get sick, but there are no guarantees. There is some benefit to planning. But after you have a plan, move on and focus on living your life rather than worrying about the virus. Don’t try to control other people’s reactions. Listen and help people work through the facts concerning the virus, but understand that hyping or denying the existence of a threat is not helpful. Call your healthcare provider if stress reactions interfere with your daily activities for several days in a row.
Children react, in part, to what they see from the adults around them. When parents and caregivers deal with the COVID-19 calmly and confidently, they can provide the best support for their children. Parents can be more reassuring to others around them, especially children, if they are better prepared. Not all children respond to stress in the same way. Some common stress-related behavior to watch for in children include:
- Excessive crying and irritation
- Returning to behaviors they have outgrown, like toileting accidents or bedwetting
- Excessive worry or sadness
- Unhealthy eating or sleeping habits
- Irritability and “acting out” behaviors
- Poor school performance or avoiding assignments
- Difficulty with attention and concentration
- Avoidance of activities enjoyed in the past
- Unexplained headaches or body pain
- Use of alcohol, tobacco, or other drugs
There are many things you can do to support your child: Take time to talk with your child. Answer questions and share facts about COVID-19 in a way that your child can understand: Stop the Spread of Rumors. Limit your child’s exposure to media coverage of COVID-19. Children may misinterpret what they hear and can become frightened about something they do not understand. Reassure your child that they are safe. Let them know it is okay if they feel upset. Share with them how you deal with your own stress so that they can learn how to cope from you. Help children find positive ways to express disturbing feelings such as fear and sadness. Every child has his/her own way to express emotions. Sometimes engaging in a creative activity, such as playing and drawing, can facilitate this process. Children feel relieved if they can express and communicate their disturbing feelings in a safe and supportive environment. Help your child to have a sense of structure. Be a role model; take breaks, get plenty of sleep, exercise, and eat well. Connect with your friends and family members and rely on your social support system.
Help the child be at ease with the new school year by having open and honest conversations, being sure to address their fears and concerns. This school year looks very different from previous years due to the pandemic and the specific measures in place to curb its spread. Talk to your child and explain the planned safety measures. This may include wearing face masks, desks being far apart from each other, teachers adhering to the six feet physical distancing rule, eating lunch in classrooms instead of the cafeteria, or distant learning for those schools opting to implement an online schooling curriculum. Reassure your child that the safety measures are in place to keep everyone safe and healthy. Remind them about the positives of returning to school, such as seeing their friends and teachers and continuing to learn new things.
Yes. Children are “sponges” and take emotional cues from their parents and caregivers. However, it is perfectly normal to feel stress and anxiety during this time of uncertainty. If you feel immobilized by these feelings, please seek professional help through a licensed behavioral health/medical provider. It is important that parents, caregivers and teachers manage their own emotions by remaining calm, being mindful of tone, listening to their concerns, and reassuring them of their safety and well-being.
LGBTQ
It’s important to know that you don’t have to have had a sexual experience to know that you’re lesbian, gay, or bisexual. Most people experience crushes when they are quite young before they become sexually active. Think about your own past crushes: Your feelings and your emotional and physical attractions will help tell you who you are.
People who are LGB, like people who are straight, can act in many different ways, and might or might not fit stereotypes. If you don’t fit a common stereotype for an LGB person, it doesn’t mean you’re not really LGB—there is a wide range of diversity within that community, just as there is throughout every part of society. Bottom line: Don’t worry about the stereotypes, and don’t let labels define you. There are as many different ways to express your LGB identity as there are people in this world.
Every person in the world has a sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression. One describes our sexual attractions; one describes our internal feeling or sense of being male, female, some combination of both, or neither; and one describes how we present ourselves outwardly to others.
Transsexual people often, but not always, use medicine and surgery to help their bodies match their gender identity, while many transgender people do not.
For transgender people, transitioning means different things. For some, it means medical treatments, including the use of hormones and gender-affirming surgeries. For others, it means social transition, which might include things such as choosing a new name or altering outward appearance with clothing or hairstyles. There is also legal transition, which is the process of changing names and gender markers on important legal documents such as a birth certificate, passport, or social security card. And for still others, it means a combination of some or all of the above.
For transgender people, transitioning means different things. For some, it means medical treatments, including the use of hormones and gender-affirming surgeries. For others, it means social transition, which might include things such as choosing a new name or altering outward appearance with clothing or hairstyles. There is also legal transition, which is the process of changing names and gender markers on important legal documents such as a birth certificate, passport, or social security card. And for still others, it means a combination of some or all of the above.
Association declared in 1973 that homosexuality is not a mental disorder or disease, and the American Psychological Association says that it would be unethical to try to change a person’s sexual orientation. Often referred to as “conversion therapy” or “reparative therapy,” it is a harmful practice that has been banned in numerous states, with even more states looking at bans.
Realizing you’re LGBTQ+ doesn’t change who you are. It just fills in some of the blanks. Now, you can choose to keep your personal picture to yourself. Or you can display it for others to see; it’s up to you. You can come out, or disclose, to one person, to friends and family only, or to everyone you know. Only if you want to, and only when you’re ready and feel safe to do so. Don’t come out just because someone else thinks you should.
Before you come out to others, you have to come out to yourself. It may sound strange, but it’s actually very important. Knowing that you’re LGBTQ+ is one thing, but being comfortable with being LGBTQ+ and being sure of who you are as a person is another. A lot of people have learned to say, “I’m PFLAG.ORG BE YOURSELF 21 not straight, and that’s OK!” as a first step in the coming-out process. Remember, any step forward is a step in the right direction. A support system is important when you’re coming out. You’ll want people around you who care about you and will be there for you, whether it’s just to talk or to give you a hug when you need one or to give you a place to stay, if necessary
Prejudice and discrimination are everywhere. If you are LGBTQ+, it is more likely than not that you will run into prejudice. The prejudice you run into could be fairly mild. For example, someone assuming you’re straight and thereby embarrassing you (and themselves). Or it could be far more serious: people who are LGBTQ+ are sometimes kicked out of their homes, fired from their jobs—or worse—just for being LGBTQ+. Anti-LGBTQ+ biases are being challenged, however, as more and more people are getting to know people who are LGBTQ+, because more of them are out than ever before. Attitudes are also changing because other people are standing up with the LGBTQ+ community to say, “They are my friends,” “they are my colleagues,” the Bottom line being some people will accept you and some won’t.
You are a unique person, worthy of love, friendship, and support. Regardless of how you identify or whom you love, you have the right to feel safe and secure. If you feel unsafe, if you feel unsure, if you feel like you have nowhere to turn, there are people who can help.
Love & Breakup
Lack of communication, lack of respect, differences of opinion on life goals or life related issues, underlying medical problems (physical and mental).
Clear communication, learning to give space and having mutual respect, learn about your partners needs and how they want to pursue the relationship and communicate the same with them.
Sometimes it is normal to feel like something is missing in the relationship even though everything seems to be smoothly operating. This could be due past trauma, experiences, anxiety, high expectations that might be unrealistic in nature. Talking to a counselor can help you find the missing pieces in your relationships.
Don’t be too hard on yourself, evaluate with patience and self-love on how to learn from the past experiences, give yourself time to grieve and understand your emotions rather than suppressing them. Reach out to an expert to help you find peace with the new beginning.
Do some soul searching, think before taking any step, evaluate whether it is good for your own soul or not or is it just because the attachment you have towards them. Reach out to an expert on the app to find answers to your dilemma.
Yes it is completely normal to miss someone with whom you have spent the moments of life, if missing the previous partner affects your mental health or daily routine you talk to an expert for some insight.
It is very common to feel lonely after a break up and your feelings are valid. One might feel as if they are alone but as difficult it might feel right now one can find love again in life. All it takes is to heal from the past experiences and being open to forming new experiences.
It is natural to have fights in a relationship but if you and your partner are not able to communicate without arguing then one must re-evaluate their communication styles. It is necessary to accept each other’s opinion and unconditional positive regard for each other.
It is natural to feel attracted towards someone other than your partner. Feeling guilt over it is something to resolve as this is a very common phenomenon and can happen to anyone. This does not make you a bad person. What is important is to learn how to tackle this situation with clear communication and to think before you take any action based upon attraction.
Is this is a long-term relationship, so is it likely worth investing in. Discuss the level of involvement you would like to have with your partner’s family. Work on building a positive relationship and focusing on the good. Hear their feelings behind the comments. Learn their love language as a way to communicate with them better. Not all events have to include all the members of the family. Set boundaries. Realize that your partner’s long-standing familial relationships and communication dynamics precede your relationship and are not likely to change. Communicate clearly.
Mid Life Crisis
Yes, midlife crisis is referred to as a period between 40-60 years of age when the man starts evaluating his/her life and generally develops stress, anxiety, and in some extreme cases, even depression.
It is really hard for a woman to accept that she is aging. Midlife Crisis In Women is an emotional state where every woman thinks that almost one half of her life is over and there is a feeling that she is no longer productive, beautiful or confident. There are times that she is bored, confused and afraid of loss.
When we have low self-esteem, our quality of life inevitably takes a hit. Low self-esteem turns our energy inwards and makes us want to isolate. It causes us to doubt ourselves. It makes us feel self-conscious and worry about what other people think of us.
Midlife Crisis in women is a moment or time in their life where they feel that they are no longer beautiful, confident, and productive. This manifests as feelings of restlessness, guild, and other changes in behavior. They also experience weight loss or gain and develop isolation from the larger society.
Midlife crisis is usually caused by aging and a combination of problems like stress in relationship, divorce, regrets over career choices, financial problems, sex issues, menopause, post-marital problems among the few.
Midlife crises in women show some distinct signs and symptoms.
These include:
- Behavioral Changes
- Feelings of Guilt
- Changes in sleeping habits
- Weight loss/gain
- Social Isolation
- Deteriorating Personal Hygiene
- Talk it out
- Think Rationally
- Audit your life
- Set goals
Over Thinking
Overthinking is a psychological condition in which the minds tends to think too much, and worry too much, about some topics that either affected a person in the past, or will affect a person in the future.
When we overthink, worry, or ruminate, we are certainly thinking. The differentiation of “over”-thinking highlights that our thinking is not getting us anywhere and is not helpful to us. So if you notice that you are stuck thinking about the same issue over and over again but are not coming to any sort of “solution,” you may be overthinking.
Yes, it is very common to over think about certain situations since we are human beings and we have ability to thinking, feel and behave. We attach meanings to situations sometimes positive in other case negative and it is common to associate strong emotions to situation.
It depends on the situation we are thinking about, how we perceive those situations and how our thinking is affecting our functioning.
It takes time to process why one is overthinking about a particular situation and once we understand the underlying factors we are able to process our thoughts better.
10 Signs You Might be Overthinking:
- You have stressful daydreams
- You feel vulnerable
- You are indecisive
- You can’t concentrate
- You are constantly anxious
- Mood swings
- You avoid things you like
- You reinterpret old memories
- You want a specific solution
- You have experienced this before.
Parenting
A mother always feels that her efforts are less when it comes to their kids. But if you give your best in every way then you are the best mom for your child.
As a mother you always want the right way, but there isn’t really a correct way to parent someone. Everyone will have their own methods, and every child will respond differently to different types of parenting. As long as you treat your children fairly and with kindness and show them how much they’re loved, you’re probably doing just fine.
Parents and kids have the ability to trigger each other as no one else can. Kids push you buttons precisely because they are your children. Dealing with whininess, tantrums, interrupting behaviors, baby talk, or any regressive behaviors is naturally frustrating for a parent.
- Talk It Out
- Create Rules Together
- Agree on Consequences
- Back Each Other Up
- Don’t Disagree in Front of the Kids
- Be Flexible Parents
- Give Second Chances.
Parents are in a position of authority and trust. They should be setting good examples for their children, not making parenting mistakes that could harm them later on down the road. Here is my list of parenting guidance for their children:
- Not trying to fix problems
- Not following through if your kids do something wrong
- Spilling secrets
- Not supporting their dreams
- Never taking your kids seriously or listening
- Never giving them consequences
- Not teaching the difference between right and wrong
- Not teaching them to be social
- Teaching kids there is no such thing as “fair”
- Not disciplining kids
- Not setting rules and limits.
The recipe for good parenting is not just one thing but a combination of lots of things all working together. Good parents will take the time to look at their own lives too as they’ll know that good parenting starts with themselves.
- Boost your child’s esteem
- Praise their good behavior
- Set rules and limits
- Avoid criticism
- Maintain good relationships
- Don’t neglect your child’s feelings
- Become role models
- Be supportive of your child’s choices
- Build good communication.
It is completely natural for children to misbehave at times, and your child may grow out of this disruptive phase. If you have any concerns about your parenting or your child, however, there are steps you can take to understand the factors that are contributing to the disconnect in your relationship with your child.
Parents should avoid making separate meals for children who are picky eaters. But the key is how you react as a parent when your kid refuses to eat something. “Staying calm and avoiding threats and punishments is important to avoid increasing stress and negative experiences during meals.
- Present new foods multiple times even if the child has refused it.
- Involve kids in the process of preparing food.
- Serve unfamiliar foods with preferred foods.
- Don’t let kids snack heavily between meals.
- Dine with your kids so you can model eating different foods.
- Make the whole family eat the same meal.
- Bring up any concerns with your pediatrician.
Never engage by responding in the same manner. Whenever something like this happens, keep your cool – calmness means control. If things are escalating, try to push the conversation for the next day. Instead of responding to the aggressive behavior, find out why your children are feeling the way they do – what is it that frustrates them and what are they expecting of you. Ask what’s on their mind and catch a moment when you are both calm, to settle things down.
Non-compliance is something every parent is bound to experience. However, a persistently stubborn child can grow up to be problematic. The trick is to pick your battle wisely; it’s not worth engaging with them in an argument regarding insignificant things. Don’t just request them to do something, also tell them what you will do when they listen to you. Like, finishing homework sooner means more playtime.
First off, here’s what not do to. Don’t hit them. Ever. If the children are very young, try to distract them from their tantrums and use an object or a toy which usually calms them down. Be firm in your punishments and never say things you won’t be able to comply with (like stopping them from playing video games for a month). Not going with a punishment all the way will only diminish your authority.
It’s heartbreaking when your children fail to see their true value. If they don’t have the strength, it’s up to you to boost it. Discuss with them about what’s wrong and try to challenge them to get a reaction. Adjust your expectations to their performances – often, children have low self-esteem because they fail to live up to them and this is because many times, the expectations are too high. Teach them that it’s OK to fail and there is nothing to be afraid of, as long as they learn to get up afterwards.
Research has shown us that there are four main parenting styles that have been observed. Each style takes a different approach to raising children.
- The Authoritarian Parent.
- The Authoritative Parent.
- The Permissive Parent.
- The Uninvolved Parent.
In an ideal world, research has shown that staying as close to an authoritative approach is best. Being aware of how you are handling a particular situation will help facilitate conversation between the two of you. Introspect on the way in which you are dealing with parenting issues in your life and you may realize that your differences are arising from your different parenting styles. By identifying your different approaches, you can communicate better and find a middle ground that works for all parties concerned.
First off, here’s what not do to. Don’t hit them. Ever. If the children are very young, try to distract them from their tantrums and use an object or a toy which usually calms them down. Be firm in your punishments and never say things you won’t be able to comply with (like stopping them from playing video games for a month). Not going with a punishment all the way will only diminish your authority.
The best way to handle this situation is to observe your child. If he actively refuses to engage with other kids, you can talk to him gently about making friends or so. At no point should you force him to converse with someone or play with somebody else. At times, two shy kids may also end up becoming friends.
It’s parents who introduce children to the digital world, and as parents, it’s your job to introduce your kids to other activities that provide them with the same excitement or fervor that gadgets do. Outdoor activities and board games are a great alternative where you can participate as well. Try and enforce specific playing times or playing hours when your child can use their gadgets.
In such cases, forcing never works. Try talking to your child about the effects of continued consumption of junk foods. Show him examples of obesity and health issues. Include him in various activities of the kitchen and let him see how a nutritious meal is prepared.
Try and talk to him about what he liked in school and inculcate a sense of curiosity and interest in that subject. If he is weak or unfocused in a particular subject, talk to him about how the knowledge can be applied with real-life examples. When it comes to studying, having a set routine works like magic. So try and implement a routine and follow it consistently.
It is important to know that the pure reason for complaining and whining is that your kid wants to know whether you are paying attention to him or not. It is best to talk with him the moment you hear him complain and offer a solution quickly. Gradually, educate him in communicating his issues the right way instead of whining all the time. Talk to him about how he himself can resolve certain problems of his own.
It is very rare that your child may not have a reason for their angry behavior. Try talking to him to find out if there are any situations in the house or outside that cause him to be stressed and react in this manner. If the situation is dire and has been continuing for a long time, it is best to get him to an anger management counselor for professional attention.
Something always goes hand in hand which is Backchat and defiance. The deep issues of Power lie beneath most of the conflicts between Teenagers and Parents.
Power (I’m your boss!), Position (I’m ought to act your parent!) and Prestige (Because I am the Parent, I will have to act like this otherwise what will others think of me).
A conversation with last-wordiness and comeback lines is a threat to our position, our prestige and they are about power. The impulsive and angry response by Parents to backchat adds fuel to the fire in defiance.
Something Parents fail to realize it the key to remove oneself from the power play. Here are some ideas:
- Avoid responding to backchat with words, instead walk away or keep busy in some other work. It defeats a power play.
- Avoid telling your child what he should do, instead talk what you can do. Lead by example
- Make more use of ‘I-messages” if you wish to convey how you feel. e.g “When someone gets rude to me I feel hurt…..” Make less use of “U”
Peers will have more influence on children thinking, attitudes, values and behaviour as they become adolescents. If a young person tries to resist peer influence, he might feel isolated or instant ostracism. It takes efforts and will power to not be part of the crowd.
Here are some tips to help:
1 Help children and teens say no whenever required and maintain their dignity.
2 Encourage the teens to give good amount of thought before giving support to some request by the peers.
3 They should be encouraged to think through the results of their decisions
4 They should be made aware to discuss the impact of peer pressure
5 Encourage your kids to hold their own opinions and not always have to
please others
When the child has some talent, it’s a greater concern to know whether to push a child or not to pursue an activity. It is natural for parents to try hard as they want to develop the talent.
It should not adversely affect on a child’s mental and physical health and emotional wellbeing.
Sometimes doing it is okay to listen to them when they do not want to pursue things further.
It is important to imbibe attitude to complete what they have started in kids.
Dropping out and escaping should not become a habit
Help kids to not make impulsive decision but a considered choice.
It is imperative to discard smacking from the toolkit of Parenting, Family discipline and the discipline methods used in schools and child care centres are different. Here are some valuable tips :
- The key is to resist your first impulse to smack. It is must to walk away when you feel so and start doing something different.
- Try distraction or move the children to a different area or just stay quite.
- Wait until the situation changes and stay calm.
- To teach more responsible behaviours, teach behavioural consequences.
- Appreciate their good behaviours with a smile and a hug.
Your ability to stay in control and composed will matter a lot in such situation. You might feel exactly the opposite inside; however, staying calm is the key. It might be little difficult; however, with practice you can learn to avoid entering a full-fledged fight with a teenager. Pacify the conversation by saying “It’s not an appropriate time to talk, let’s talk later today. I want us to discuss this later but not now.” Stay calm and refuse to react and revert to taunts
Provide your young person with space by moving away.
It can be dealt with again when you both are calm.
Ask, “what would make you so angry” or “what were you thinking that made you so angry”
NO, is a complete sentence and it doesn’t have to be explained. Sometimes children do not understand this and keep persisting until they get their favourable response. You may try these anti-pestering tips: In some issues, there has to be a“NO means NO “policy at home. Your child may throw tantrums when you say NO. It has to be ignored. Give the impression to the kids that you and your. Partners have the same view. When they keep persisting, use the time-out of Parents method. It’s super effective when you move away or pretend you aren’t there.
One of the best success and resilience trait is Perseverance. It’s worthwhile to push your kids to persist. Here are some persistence tips: Use a proper vocabulary in your conversation to encourage and help them persisting E.g. hang in there. Hang tough. It should get easy. Push the kids when the part gets hard in any endeavour and link effort and hard work with success. They should be taught to not quit half way. Encourage them to stay at the homework task until the end, not to quit their sports team until the season’s end, etc. Remind kids of history when they persisted and it worked for them.
Kids alter the truth and lie for many reasons. Sometimes they want to escape negativity and avoid your disappointment. They want to make themselves seem important and sometimes they do fantasise. To try to identify the purpose of a child’s untruths in the thumb rule. Don’t let children escape negative consequence through their lies or stories
The importance or honesty and trust should be imbibed in kids through examples and storytelling. Sometimes it is okay to be part of fantasizing but do not go too far. Make sure if they lie, your reactions and interactions are positive but do give feedback. Encourage children to tell the truth if they are found to be lying.
Attention-seeking is many times apparent in the teenager. Attention-seekers want the attention of their Parents and want to keep them busy in their service. To minimize attention-seeking, you may follow below mentioned tips: Ignore their attention-seeking and invest your attention to a constructive place. On the contrary, provide lots of positive attention when they do some good and deserve it. Help attention-seekers feel useful feel worthy so that they can follow their own interests. Appreciate their good behaviours. Help your child the importance of activities and that the world doesn’t revolve around them.
Post-Marriage
Conflicts are never meant to ignore and it should be shared as early as possible, that’s why they need for marriage counselling becomes the must. The Marriage Counsellor will resolve any kind of conflict and confusion occurs in a relationship to focus on establishing harmony between couples.
Yes one can as depends upon communication, honesty and commitment.
Sometimes you love your partner but no longer feel in love with them. This is common facet of being in long term monogamous relationship especially for patterned women who are twice likely to lose interest in sex according to researches. Many times couples take each other for granted, get too busy with work or children, start to feel as if their relationship is more like a friendship and sharing chores or duties. This affects their desire for each other.
According to researches when a partner cheats it is usually more about them looking to rediscover parts of themselves that light up when they are with the person they have cheated with. When the partner learns about the affair they either instantly initiate a breakup or choose to cope with infidelity together. It is advisable to see a therapist in such situations.
Talking to your partner about sex is important to ease out the tension between to sexually active partners or if one is less interested than others. It helps to improve physical intimacy, try new things to spice up the sexual intimacy.
Talking with your partner about sex important to ease out the tension between two sexually active partners or if one person is less interested in sex than the other. It helps you in improving physical intimacy in your love life.
The way we perceive sex is usually colored by the media and celebrities, and so we often have unrealistic expectations of what our sex lives will and should be”. Its focus is frequently, only tangentially about sex, it’s more of an emotive issue so it can significantly improve your sex life because it helps individuals and couples relieve problems such as performance anxiety or relationship problem.
Studies have shown that men at the age of 55 (you can add 10 or 11 years) start losing interest in sex related activities while women at the age can expect less than 11 years.
Attending couples therapy will give you clear results, one way or another. “Through the tips, emotional digging, and heart-opening conversations, you will have a much clearer picture of how your marriage will continue on or if separate paths are the way to go.
Happy couples find regular therapy sessions help them maintain and enhance their healthy relationships. Together, they learn how to work through disagreements and other relationship issues, improve their emotional and physical intimacy, and understand one another on a deeper level.
Relationship counseling can help partners understand each other, resolve difficult problems, and even help the couple gain a different perspective on their situation. It cannot, however, fix the unequal power structure that is characteristic of an abusive relationship.
Healing after an affair might seem to be a harrowing task. But, working with a marriage counselor can help in surviving infidelity. Marriage counseling can be an effective way to recover after an affair, and for both partners to regain trust in one another.
There is no bigger decision you make in life than whether to have or adopt a child. Yet the pressure put on women and men, to a lesser extent, is so profound. The only real decision that you as a couple are supposed to make is not whether to have children but when to have them. People might often ask whether you have kids all the time, how your “no” is followed by an entirely non-ironic “pregnant” pause in anticipation of the explanation that your rogue behavior demands. Saying “We’re happy without them” will shock your questioner’s confusion because surely the importance of having children outweighs your desire to be happy but let that not be the case anymore. In fact research says that people who do not have kids are happier and more satisfied than people who have kids forcefully or because of the pressure of society.
Pre-Marriage
Premarital counselling is to identify and address any potential areas of conflict in a relationship early on, before those issues become serious concerns, and teach partners effective strategies for discussing and resolving conflict.
Premarital counseling is just a way to work on your marriage before it begins! A premarital counselor will often act as a facilitator for conversations that are important to discuss before getting married. They will ask you premarital-related questions and help you to come to a consensus or understanding about important topics. These pre-marital conversations are extremely helpful in order to set the groundwork for marriage counseling later in life.
When it comes to marriage preparation, premarital counseling can be extremely helpful in facilitating the conversations that are important to discuss before getting married. Premarital counseling can help lead you to a successful marriage and a fulfilling married life by asking important related questions that factor into deciding to marry.
Some of these discussions include what your expectations are for the relationship and your individual and combined goals in life. It may also be important for premarital couples to discuss extended family and the environment that their marriage family will be existing in. Married couples often don’t realize the issues that they’re facing until they have already become very large; this is why premarital counseling can be so helpful.
When thinking about when to begin premarital counseling, oftentimes the answer is the sooner the better, with some couples even choosing to go to pre-engagement counseling.
Seeing a licensed counselor work on your marriage is never a bad idea, so starting off early is ideal. Marriage counseling is a great tool for couples to engage with at any point. It gives you the opportunity to as marriage-related questions in a safe environment.
For healthy communication
- Accepting opinions different to ours
- Unconditional acceptance and positive regard
- Forgiveness
The length of your premarital counseling depends heavily on you and your partner, as well as the length of your engagement. If you are facing many issues, or if you both struggle with emotional difficulties, you will most likely be recommended to stay in counseling longer than a couple who faces fewer of these issues. It is a good idea to talk to your counselor about the duration of your premarital counseling, and other related questions in order to get a better idea of how long it will last.
Premarital counseling can be done online, much like individual counseling. If you are interested in online counseling, you can find many websites that will provide it in various formats. Online counseling can be great if you are always on the go, or have very busy schedules.
Premarital counseling is not necessary, however, just like individual counseling, it can be extremely helpful in working through life’s everyday issues. Premarital counseling is often highly recommended in order to have a more successful marriage. feel about the disruption in the relationship. If you think you need help, talk to an expert.
Premarital counseling has been shown to lead to more successful marriages. Couples who engage in premarital counseling and, later, marriage counseling often are better at conflict resolution and are generally happier in their relationships than couples who do not. Marriage and family are two areas of expertise that are complicated and can only be improved with marriage counseling.
It is completely normal to get this feeling,but what is important is to understand the underlying reason.Firstly you need the know what is the meaning of marriage in your life and do you think that it is for you.If yes then identify what are the reasons/doubts that are stopping you from getting into it,and how can those be resolved.However if your answer is No then also know that it is completely okay.Research shows that marriage rates are decreasing slowly because people are more focussed on themselves and their lives.
Relationship
Clear communication, learning to give space and having mutual respect, learn about your partner’s needs and how they want to pursue the relationship and communicate the same with them.
Typically when people talk about “being in a relationship,” the term is referencing a specific type of romantic relationship involving both emotional and physical intimacy, some level of ongoing commitment.
Balance involves knowing that both parts of your life are important, your relationship and your both things can go hand in hand. What needs to be learned is how to prioritize when to give importance to one and when to another which depends upon clear communication and respect and admiration for each other.
Lack of communication, lack of respect, differences of opinion on life goals or life related issues, underlying medical problems (physical and mental).
Sometimes it is normal to feel like something is missing in the relationship even though everything seems to be smoothly operating. This could be due past trauma, experiences, anxiety, high expectations that might be unrealistic in nature. Talking to a counsellor can help you find the missing pieces in your relationships.
Don’t be too hard on yourself, evaluate with patience and self-love on how to learn from the past experiences, give yourself time to grieve and understand your emotions rather than suppressing them. Reach out to an expert to help you find peace with the new beginning.
Do some soul searching, think before taking any step, evaluate whether it is good for your own soul or not or is it just because of the attachment you have towards them. Reach out to an expert on the app to find answers to your dilemma.
Yes it is completely normal to miss someone with whom you have spent the moments of life, if missing the previous partner affects your mental health or daily routine you talk to an expert for some insight.
It is very common to feel lonely after a break up and your feelings are valid. One might feel as if they are alone but as difficult it might feel right now it one can find love again in life. All it takes is to heal from the past experiences and being open to forming new experiences.
It is natural to have fights in a relationship but if you and your partner are not able to communicate without arguing then one must re-evaluate their communication styles. It is necessary to accept each other’s opinion and unconditional positive regard for each other.
It is natural to feel attracted towards someone other than your partner. Feeling guilt over it is something to resolve as this is a very common phenomenon and can happen to anyone. This does not make you a bad person. What is important is to learn how to tackle this situation with clear communication and to think before you take any action based upon attraction.
When it comes to maintaining a relationship over the long term, love is good, respect is better, and trust is the touchstone. However, trust can be lost at a moment’s notice, especially when your mutual trust has been damaged through dishonesty, or by cheating or falling short of the other’s standards. Displaying the desire to want to be together and reform that trust is an excellent sign, but both partners need to figure out how that trust can be re-established before they can move forward once again.
This is a golden question as it allows both partners to express their desires while simultaneously helping the other partner realize that they may not have been as loving or as caring as they should’ve been. When these types of needs or desires are expressed out of session, it may be perceived to be neediness, nagging, or, in the case of an argument, just anger. However, when these needs and desires are presented in a safe, non-judgmental space, partners may see that their partner’s needs are not being met and there is an issue at hand. This can also help set the couple for goal-setting success as they try to implement these needs into their daily life.
Happiness is a contradictory idea, both complex and easy in its own right. Perhaps you feel You may be comfortable with your loved one and maybe sometimes go through several circumstances that bring about happy and positive emotions, but it is crucial that you question yourself whether or not you are really happy with your loved one. It is also vital that your partner asks the same question to you. In a lot of cases, two individuals are together simply because they want to feel safe. They would prefer to settle instead of looking for that person who makes them happy because they are scared that they won’t find the right person. The question needs to be asked because often, the most encouraging results that couples counseling can yield is accepting that it’s better to let something go when it’s no longer working rather than waste time on a relationship where you and your partner are not determined to save.
So a quick way to tell if you’re fighting too much is to do the math: In a week, how many positive interactions do you have with your partner? How many negative ones? The first step to making your relationship feel less exhausting and chaotic is to crunch the numbers and see how you two can cultivate more positive interactions. When it comes to signs that you and your partner are fighting too much, it’s more about how you’re fighting than what the fight is about. If you’re frequently having fights with bae where they cut you off (so you can’t get a word in), that’s a red flag but it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. If your partner continually shuts hard conversations down, then take a 20-minute time out during arguments. “Self-soothe and distract yourself, so that you can come back to the conflict when you have more of a level head,”
Possessiveness arises from insecurity mainly. Past experiences play a very vital role in giving rise to possessiveness especially the incidents of childhood since they leave deep marks on the mind and heart of the person.They get over-addicted to a special person because they fear losing that person or his/ her attention. Lack of thrust is another one.At times we like a person but we don’t trust him therefore we start behaving possessively since we are afraid of losing that person. All in all fear lies at the root cause of possessiveness. This is the fear of the unknown, something which does not exist but still exists, in our minds. However possessiveness cannot be taken to be bad all the time. It is a natural reaction of every human being and exists in every person to an extent. In fact, healthy possessiveness is essential for a relationship to survive.
It’s normal for couples to talk less after the relationship reaches a certain level of maturity. No matter how romantic the relationship was, after exploring each other to their fullest the volume of conversation is bound to decrease. But there are differences between quality conversation and talking a lot. Talking less with your partner doesn’t always mean that the relationship is falling apart. However, of course, there could be situations otherwise. It’s not how much you communicate, but the way you do so that helps build a solid base for your relationship.
Self Esteem
When you have high self-esteem, you generally feel good about yourself. Children with high self-esteem are proud of their abilities. perceive the positive aspects of themselves Even if they don’t perform well at first, they must believe in themselves.
Your self-esteem is determined by your views about who you are, what you can do, your skills and flaws, and your future expectations. There may be certain persons in your life who send you messages about yourself that can boost your self-esteem.
When we have low self-esteem, our quality of life inevitably takes a hit. Low self-esteem turns our energy inwards and makes us want to isolate. It causes us to doubt ourselves. It makes us feel self-conscious and worry about what other people think of us.
Speaking negatively about oneself and being critical of yourself are both signs of poor self-esteem.
- Concentrating on your flaws while forgetting your accomplishments
- Believing that others are superior to you
- Refusing to accept compliments
- Sad, melancholy, anxious, humiliated, or furious feelings.
Self-esteem influences both your and your partner’s relationship pleasure, according to research. Insecurities and self-defeating beliefs can influence how you interact with your relationship. Low self-esteem can cause you to misinterpret your spouse.
Self-esteem and self-love are essential for forming meaningful and healthy relationships with others. Lack of self-esteem, on the other hand, maybe fatal to any relationship, romantic or otherwise, because it puts partners on an unequal footing.
When parents pay attention, let a child attempt, smile, and show pride, their self-esteem grows. Self-esteem can develop as children get older. Any time children try new things, do new things, or learn new things, their self-esteem can rise.
Sexual & Masturbating Problems
Excessive masturbating is a sign of a prevailing mental condition that can cause behavioral disorders. An intense feeling of guilt after masturbation is one sign of masturbation being an addiction. This can lead to increased levels of alcohol consumption. Thus masturbation becomes a problem if it is compulsive or you tend to force yourself to do it. It is fine to do it but don’t let it consume you.
Erectile Dysfunction is a disorder in which a man gets trouble in performing or maintaining an erection. Usually, the erections are either loose or less firm, preventing a man from giving pleasure to his partner. People with frequent masturbation issues have seen a glance at ED in the future.
It happens because when a man masturbates to a great extent; it desensitizes him to an imaginary intimacy and makes him lose the physical potential to perform well in bed.
A major side-effect of performing this sexual act is that a man loses his sexual sensitivity and desires.
Aggressive masturbation, like when you tight a grip too hard on the penis or you do it faster, will make you lose your sensitivity. But if proper techniques are used at the right time, you can eliminate such side effects quickly.
Some people still feel that performing masturbation makes them lose their religious beliefs or make them look bad in society. Usually, a man with this thinking approach suffers from mental health issues that lead to depression as well.
Excessive thinking or guilt for performing masturbation might lead to depression, stress and phobia to perform physically with the partner. It is important to understand that masturbation is not immoral, and doing this will not make him any less of a man.
The answer to this question is -” Yes”. Frequent masturbation can lead to various skin problems or foreskin issues. It may also lead to Edema/Odema- a physical problem involving swelling because of inflammation or infection. Getting skin tears and irritation is very common.
When you feel that excessive masturbation is affecting your thinking or relationship with your partner, it is time to stop. You can always look up ways to stop masturbation regularly. And when nothing works for you, you can always consult a sexologist to seek help over the issue. This is how you can stop the habit of masturbation. When a person is active and occupied, there are fewer chances to think about performing this activity. And when you focus on things that do not trigger you to perform physical acts, it eventually helps you control your urge to masturbate.
The first thing you need to do to prevent this habit is to avoid watching porn. Porn is something that triggers a man’s brain to seek sexual pleasure. And when you stop watching porn, you avoid imagining sexual scenarios that force you to do so.
Doing exercise on a daily basis solves around 90% of the sexual problems that a man faces. In addition, exercise makes a man lose his tension and gives him positive energy. Swimming, weight lifting, jogging and running are beneficial in relieving endorphins that promote a state of well-being.
Spend some time with your close ones as when you are around people who you feel connected to, including your partner; then you don’t feel lonely. Being with people and spending time with them will reduce your urge to masturbate. It will keep you occupied and also redirect your focus on important things.
Stress & Anger
Anger management and stress management work in similar ways. One reason for this is because anger and stress both have a psychological component so they can be managed psychologically. Both emotions can affect us in very negative ways, mainly if left unmanaged. Prolonged exposure to anger and stress can take a toll on our physical health. It can raise our blood pressure which instigates other issues that affect us physically and emotionally. It can negatively impact our relationships as well. Beyond that, we can also develop negative habits as a response to excessive levels of anger and stress that become more difficult to control over time. Either of these effects can result in more anxiety. In order to begin managing the adverse effects of stress and anger, we need to look at how these emotions impact our lives. Stress can lead to anger which can lead to even more stress. Neither feeling is healthy, but we shouldn’t try to eliminate them. Instead, we should attempt to control them by understanding factors that affect anger and stress and coping strategies for better management.
Everyone reacts to stress differently – it can depend on your personality and how you respond to pressure. Stress, especially over a long period of time, can cause both mental and physical problems.
Some common effects to look out for include:
- Mood swings
- Feeling irritable or short tempered
- Being more emotional
- Eating more or less than usual
- Sleeping too much or too little
- Becoming more aggressive
- Smoking and drinking alcohol more than usual
- Being unable to concentrate.
There are many situations that can cause stress, and sometimes there may not be an obvious cause. Some of the common triggers for stress include:
- Work or education demands,
- Financial matters,
- Personal life events or changes like:
a) illness or injury,
b) bereavement, and organising a large or complicated event,
c) friends and family situations; such as a relationship break-up or divorce or
being a carer.
Stress can affect you physically and cause problems such as having no energy, trouble sleeping, stomach ache, chest pains or tightness in your chest, headaches, diarrhoea and constipation, feeling sick, muscle tension, hyperventilating, and sexual problems.
- Exercise
- Meditation
- Eating a healthy balanced diet
- Avoiding unhealthy habits such as drinking too much alcohol or smoking
- Finding time to meet friends
- Making time for yourself
- Knowing your limits and accepting the things you can’t change.
Anger is a normal, healthy emotion, but when you let it dominate your life, you are not dealing with your anger in a healthy way and it’s time to make a change.
Yes, chronic anger can lead to many physical health issues like high blood pressure, cholesterol, heart attack and extreme exertion besides hampering your ability to make informed decisions.
People can become angry for many reasons, and everyone experiences anger differently. Events or circumstances that cause an angry outburst in one person may not affect another person at all. Can be because of problem caused by a specific person, such as a coworker, partner, friend, or family member. Frustrating events, such as being stuck in a traffic jam or having a flight canceled or personal problems that cause extreme worry or ruminating, memories of traumatic or infuriating events, feeling that goals are unachievable etc.
- Think before you speak
- Once you’re calm, only then express your
- anger
- Get some exercise
- Take a timeout
- Identify possible solutions
- Don’t hold a grudge
- Use humor to release tension
- Use some relaxation exercises
- Talk to a professional.
True. Stress in small doses can be beneficial for us in terms of increased energy and mental alertness. This type of stress is considered good. For example, feeling mildly stressed when carrying out a project or assignment often compels us to do a good job, focus better, and work energetically.
False. Eliminating stress from life is not only impossible, it is unrealistic. For people prone to the negative effects of stress, stress management is important for physical and mental well-being.
True. According to the American Psychological Association, chronic stress is constant and persists over an extended period of time. Chronic stress can become difficult for the body to manage and can be psychologically and physically debilitating.
True. Adrenal glands manufacture the hormone cortisol as well as adrenaline, both of which help the body manage responses to stress and convert sugar and fat to energy. Excess cortisol is secreted during times of physical or psychological stress, and the normal pattern of cortisol secretion (with levels highest in the early morning and lowest at night) can be altered.
Headache, gastrointestinal disturbances, sleep problems, muscle tension, muscle ache, muscle pain, and fatigue. Common physical signs and symptoms of excess stress can include sleeping problems, gastrointestinal disturbances, muscle tension, muscle aches, muscle pain, fatigue, and headache, including migraines. Emotional and behavioral signs and symptoms can include nervousness, irritability, anxiety, changes in eating habits, loss of energy and enthusiasm, and depression.
False. Stress is a natural, normal part of life. It is important to note that the experience of stress varies greatly among the individual. What constitutes overwhelming stress for one person may not be perceived as stress by another.
Coping with your problems one at a time helps. But there are certain situations like the death of a loved one, where you may find coping very difficult. Hence, in those situations, you should try first to accept the truth of the situation, and then try to understand your feelings, and only then you should try to manage them. And you can always seek assistance from a psychologist for the execution of the last part.
A lot of people say that exercise does wonders for you. This is most true for people dealing with everyday stressors. A half-hour dance too can help relax both your mind and your body.
There isn’t a single person who doesn’t feel stressed out every now and then. Some people hide it better than others, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t feel it. Though the intensity of the stress varies from person to person, and so does the coping strategies, it is not easy for anyone. And the mere fact that we are all in it together is a source of comfort for many people.
It always does. therapy is often the best possible solution.
Feeling stressed out is a nightmare. It can lead to continuous headaches, back pains, and lower energy. Moreover, it can greatly affect your work-life, making you less productive and creative.
Talking about your issues helps. Be open about the things that bother you, but also be accepting and considerate of the things that bother your spouse. Remember, the key to getting things right is to work together on this.
Continuous stress is known to lead to many medical problems. These include continuous headaches that might increase in severity. Other problems include insomnia, chest pain, and rapid heartbeats. Moreover, people experiencing stress on a regular basis are more likely to suffer from heart-related issues.
Other Issues
Yes, you can still use this app and get help from our experts who can help you figure out your thoughts, feelings and actions.
It is sometimes not easy to understand and process what one may be thinking or feeling, by talking to an expert you can understand your thoughts better.
